Y’all! Can I share my heart and hair for a second?? Since I came out the womb I’ve been a believer in the bigger the hair, the closer you are to heaven!
Which sadly after surgery, having quadruplets, hormone medicines, anemia, it was literally my hair against the world, and the world won!! 😢
Here are some BEFORE photos of what I used to call my hair in its "Glory Days."
I would look at these photos are just CRY when thinking about my hair! How did this happen?! How did I go from having such big, amazing, GUCCI hair, to being a bald headed scallie wag?!
At least when most moms have to deal with post pardom hair loss, they get to see their worth it every day. I gave birth to four gorgeous babies that did survive and neither did my hair.
Lost my babies, lost my hair, lost my heart, and nearly lost my mind! It just didn't seem fair!
Not only have I been using these products and loving my hair. But I started my OWN business as a Shampoo dealer to help other men and women fall in love with their hair! If you have followed my journey you know how passionate I am about helping women, men, even children build self confidence and love themselves. IM SO PASSIONATE about helping plant those little tiny seeds of confidence and self love!
As you know my husband and I are on an IVF and surrogacy journey that has already started off with a HUGE hurdle of my Dr. suggesting I lower my BMI to retrieve healthier eggs by losing a simple 100lbs lol. The party never stops around here, I tell ya! But hey, I'm up for ANY challenge that will get us closer to our happily ever after.
Infertility is also crazy expensive!! We are looking around $90,000 to ATTEMPT to start a family. No guarantee, just a shot. Which is what also drew me to MONAT.
Me and my husband both work 9-5 jobs and work incredibly hard. Do I really want to put us into this "baby debt?" When there is no guarantee we will come out of this with a baby? We just purchased a beautiful brand new home 7 months ago, and I have heard HORROR stories of couples going as far as to lose their homes because of trying to finance infertility.
self love, babies, infertility, weight loss, $90,000, I mean.. its enough to make a girl go crazy lol.
About 2 months ago a friend of mine gave me samples of this shampoo and was like, just try it! Let me know what you think! Very hesitant I let them sit in my shower for weeks before trying them!
I was literally at the point of trying on wigs instead of dealing with my own hair because I knew nothing outside of THE LORD was going to help it.
I lost my babies, my boobs, my hair, and that's just the way my cards were dealt.
**Side note; you wanna talk about rude! Try growing 4 babies in your body, giving birth to them, and then producing breast milk for no one. Saggy boobs, for what???!! SO DISRESPECTFUL! lol**
If you have made it this far in my NOVEL lol God bless you lol.
So I try this shampoo; starting with the oil treatment... and I literally woke up the next day and text my friend who gave it to me. "WHAT IS THIS HAIR VOO DOO YOU GAVE ME?!"
I couldn't believe how soft, shiny, and thick my hair felt! It literally felt like someone had brought my hair back from the dead. The living dead! The damn walking dead y'all! lol.
She gave me even more products to try and I fell in LOVE! The smell, the NO HARSH CHEMICALS!, and the RESULTS!
Im a HUGE skeptic when it comes to hair help and hair care. NOTHING was going to save my hair and I knew that for a fact! UNTILL I TRIED MONAT!
Here are my results from using MONAT for just ONE month!
I MEAN!!! I knew I was bald around my hair line and edges. That has always been my problem area! And my hair wouldn't grow! And it was a greasy mess! MY ENTIRE HEAD WAS THE PROBLEM AREA OKAY?! lol. This is ONE month y'all! The Glorious AFTER photo lol.
This is right after I washed my hair and styled it. Normally, my hair would never get volume OR hold a curl right after a wash. I would have to throw it up and wait from that precise moment between clean and 1 day dirty to when I could have a curl hold for more than an hour!!
I still can't believe THIS IS MY HAIR!
I have been using @monatgearofficial for a month now! And I could legit cry when styling my hair! I’m just now getting the hair I was supposed to have before life took over.
ALL our products promote hair growth! And my secret weapons have been our thickening spray and dry shampoo while styling! I could talk about big healthy hair till blue in the face! LoL. I thought I was hair hopeless y’all! Destined to just be slave to weaves and wigs my entire life!
Ive never had THIS kind of hair WITHOUT my head being entirely full of extensions! Now I just add them for fun! Im not a SLAVE to them! Here is my hair BEFORE MONAT, in that awkward hair stage where it would never grow further than this!
YALL! WHAT IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING?! MY POOR HAIR! ITS JUST SAD!! Like this was days of praying over it, treating it, actually getting it ready to take these photos!!!! And you can see, my thin bald headed ass hair line. Damaged, DRY, just not fun hair! MERP!!!
So when you buy from me, not only are you taking a step towards having No More Bad Hair Days, but you are supporting me in getting that much closer to my happily ever after! And I can’t say thank you enough!!
I’ve been shampoo dealing for a about three weeks and have already contributed to our happily ever after! #CMONBABYROBLES! That’s how incredible this business is! Not only am I helping men and women get their hair BACK, but I am slowly able to save money towards us no longer having empty arms.
If you’d like more info on how you can work with me, and make a crazy amount of money just by selling shampoo lol please message me! If you are a mom with the goal to make money so you can stay home with ur babies, this is for you! If you are a TTCer like me, that needs a ridiculous amount of money to try and start a family, this is for you!
Or if you could use an extra $100, $500, $1,000, $5,000 a month and help people feel confident about themselves..THIS IS FOR YOU!
And lastly , If you’d like to have Gucci hair and support my happily ever after, you can either click the link below and purchase. OR, message me your hair concerns, I will create a cart especially for you and email it back. All you do is fill out your info and you have become one of my VIPs! And you personally have gotten me and my husband THAT much closer to our happily ever after.,🙏🏼❤️
I wish I could say it was absolutely ludicrous to believe that feeling sexy has anything to do with what size you are, but sadly for many women it does. I get hundreds of messages from men and women after I post a "sexy" photo of myself saying things like; "I wish I had your confidence." or "I wish I had the courage to wear something sexy like that." Men will send me messages asking me what my secret is and if I could talk to their wife about how sexy confidence is.
And my question is...WHY??? WHY do we associate sexiness with size?? Why is it totally mind blowing for fat men and women to feel sexy? Why are WE supposed to be excluded from the feeling sexy game????
Society shoves images of small waisted women in lingerie, bikinis, damn near dental floss, and yeah...60% of the time I think they are sexy. But just because I DONT look ANYTHING like that, doesn't mean I'm not sexy to!
I used to have the mindset of so many men and women out there. "Once I lose weight, ill be happy." "Once I lose weight, Ill be able to wear lingerie." "Once I lose weight, ALLLLLL my problems will magically disappear." LOL Oh Jesus...be a fence.
NEWS FLASH!!! Sexiness is not restricted to a certain size! It comes from within!!
And I don't care what anyone says, we ALL have days when we feel totally NOT sexy. Thin people don't feel sexy all day everyday. Regardless of what society and The Bachelor say.
What I've learned in this plus size life of mine, is that feeling sexy is a state of mind. And that before I can feel sexy with anyone else I have to feel sexy with my self. Thats the first step! I remember at the very beginning of my marriage, at my smallest size and lightest weight not even wanting to look at myself in lingerie! Let alone have my new husband look at me!
And I hated feeling that way! It wasn't until I bought lingerie for MY DAMN SELF, and walked around my house ALONE, that I started to feel more comfortable in my own skin.
I feel like a lot of times as women we put so much pressure on other validation of ourselves, Whats HE going to like?? Whats HE going to think??
YOU HAVE TO START WITH YOU! What do YOU want to see on yourself? What do YOU think about yourself???
Start with that! And the rest will fall into place!
As a big girl it's VERY common for a brand to throw some awful left over fabric together, normally in the shape of a pancho, and say they offer "Plus Sizes." SMH. MERP! I have always been one to stray away from anything pancho esk or even flirting with the pancho family. When you are short like I am and a size 26, it just doesn't pair well.
So you can imagine my surprise when I found Renata Raps! I was immediately drawn to the fabulousness of the owner Renata at a fashion show in NC. She just oozed fashion, poise, and elegance. She looked so effortlessly chic wearing one of her wraps and I just had to learn more!
Once I visited her showcase and got my hands on all of the luxurious pieces, I was hooked!
Not gonna lie, I was a little skeptical on how they would wear on my body type, but I was totally blown away once I tried the wraps on!
***Sometimes half the battle is not worrying about if its going to look good on you, fit you, come in your size etc. If you walk into a store and love something, ask for it in YOUR size! Whats the worst that can happen???***
Renata and her gorgeous daughter showed me how easy it was to rock my wrap and before I knew items debit card was swiped! I wore my wrap on the plane ride home, which by the way...these wraps are genius for traveling! Who wants to be stuffy and uncomfortable when traveling/flying??? Try wrap was more comfortable than throwing on a baggy sweatshirt with no bra, and a million times more chic and fashionable! lol.
The price point is more on the luxury end but this is definitely one of those transitional pieces you can wear for all seasons. Ya'll know me, I LOVE combining expensive pieces with bargains and making them my own. Like in these photos I paired my wrap with a simple $5 long sleeve black shirt, a pair of torrid leggings, my new favorite coach bag, and a $2 scarf from my favorite thrift store!
In honor of International Women's Day I decided to wear one of my FAVORITE tees that says it all. GIRLS SUPPORT GIRLS by Daisy Natives.
I own this shirt in couple different colors and let me tell you! Its seriously one of the most comfy shirts I own! The quality is superb and it just hugs the body in all the right ways! It's all size inclusive, which I LOVE! And the cut is very flattering also. Its not a traditional "Women's Cut" to where its not going to work on the curvier folks. But not a "Men's Cut" either to where its going to look tight in the boobs and loose on the arms and stomach.
Here is what Daisy Natives has to say about their Girls Support Girls Collection.
Because too often we'd rather compete than lift each other up. Girls Support Girls. No matter what.
$1 from every purchase of the Girls Support Girls tee will be donated to Girls For A Change, a national organization that inspires girls to have the voice, ability and problem solving capacity to speak up, be decision makers, create visionary change and realize their full potential.
-Gold yellow/navy design (also available in pink, white, emerald green, navy blue, and baseball tee)
-Unisex (see Size Guide under FAQs!)
-Super soft ringspun tee
-50% Polyester/25% Cotton/25% Rayon
-Screenprinted in Austin, TX
Now lets talk about this full length tulle skirt! I MEAN!! GET REAL RIGHT?! Its seriously one of my favorite fashion pieces! Its from Society plus and retails for around $110.00.
Now I know thats a little pricy for a tutu, but let me tell you. its literally worth every penny! I may not know a thing or two about a thing or two, but your girls knows tutus! Ive bought them, made them, my entire life basically lol And when I tell you I have never found a more amazing tutu, you can take that to the bank!
Not only does it come in lots of other colors, but lots of different lengths as well! Everyone needs a tutu in their closet in my opinion lol.
This Gem of a leather jacket is a 3xl and by Jessica Simpson believe it or not! I had no idea she was turning out clothes for the plus size team! Go Jess!! I purchased it at Burlington Coat Factory a couple years ago. Not wanting to fully commit to a letter jacket vibe, a simple drape over the shoulders gives the outfit that "I am woman, hear me roar!" In a fashionable way type of moment!
I was fortunate enough to be invited to the Coach fashion blogger event at the Ontario Mills location this past weekend and holy accessories batman! It was absolutely magical!
The store was completely closed and just open to us fashion bloggers which I'm not gonna lie.. I was feeling 12 kinds of Pretty Woman! From the moment I arrived it was total VIP. There was goodies bags, drinks, desserts, photo stations, I mean the amount of detail that went into this event was absolutely fabulous!
We were there to check out the new American Dreaming Collection that is totally giving me all the american, vintage, pin up vibes! Made me think of the 4th of July and to quote one of my favorite movies, "It made me want a hot dog real bad." (Legally Blonde 2)
How stinking CUTE are the prints on these wallets???? I cant!!!! <3
Meet fellow fashion blogger Yailin Victoria! She runs the ultra fab blog TheBeverlyChicBlog
How cute is she?! Check her out on IG@ LoveLuxe_Style
So if you know me then you know I LIVE for a mustard fashion moment. So when I laid eyes on this beauty I'm holding here, I knew she would be coming home with me. She was adorned with the perfect little blue floral scarf and uhhhh... it was love at first site.
The mustard color of this bag totally POPPED with my floral dress from Torrid! Just another added bonus lol
But sadly, as I threw the bag on cross body style - which is my favorite way to comfortably wear any bag- my dreams were shattered when she didn't fit right! NOOO!!!!!!
I extended the strap, clipped it into different spots, even tried to see if there was any way I could stylishly DIY some gold links to make her fit better. But sadly, it wasn't working out.
This was one of those cross body bags that instead of falling more so at the hip, it fell more like right at the bottom of your bra. Not flattering on me :(
But your girl is NO quitter lol I had many backups to choose from that I loved just as much!
Unlike most Coach stores I've been to, this location is MASSIVE! "So much more room for activities!"
(Where is that from?) :)
Not JUST bags! I was totally surprised at how gorgeous their clothing was!
Be still my heart!! I nearly choked when I spotted these beauties! Floral Glitter High Top Sneaker?!? ummm YES!!!! And here is the best part about this location.. it's an OUTLET! So these shoes normally retail for around $250 with all the discounts this location provides, these came out to $80.00!!!!
I know... I cant. <3
Backpacks are ALL the rage right now and Coach has definetly made their mark with this beauty!
How incredibly cute are these keychains/bag charms?!
This is the beauty I ended up bringing home with me! Ill be positing an OOTD with her very soon! She is the Cross Body Clutch in RED with gun metal detailing.
“You don't alter a Vera Wang, you alter yourself to fit Vera. - Bride Wars
If you had asked me when I was 28 and in my wedding dress if I ever thought I would end up in my forties flipping my husband the bird over potato chips, I'd say you were crazy.
When I was a little girl I always imagined the day I went looking for my wedding dress. Me and this imaginary mother I had in my head would be tracing around all of Los Angeles, Beverly Hills (dahling, lol), combing through racks and racks of tulle, lace, diamonds and taffeta until we finally found THE ONE. I would come walking out of the fitting rooms stepping onto the pedestal in front of the mirror and silence would fall over the entire boutique as they gawked in awe of the worlds most beautiful dress. My mom would start to cry and we would just instantly know that we had found THE DRESS! THE DRESS I would start my Happily Ever After in. THE DRESS I would take my last steps as a single woman in. THE DRESS that one day I would pass down to my daughter, and she would pass down to her daughter and so on and so on.
This Tied Dyed Top from BohoBlu Curvy is a MUST have for all my So Cal beauties. I know its technically "Fall" but sadly us here in Southern California can't reach for those heavy coats and scarves just yet! ::InsertTemperTantrum:: Instead, reach for something like this Rania Curvy top from Bohoblu Curvy. It's light weight enough to keep you cool in this 80 degree "fall" weather and thin enough to add a jacket to for later in the evening when it cools down to about 68 degrees. It's the perfect Top to stylishly fake the funk of Fall but not sweat to death until she finally arrives!
I've never been one for tied dye, in fact,I strongly dislike it. But this is such a stylish twist on your traditional tied dye that I didn't even notice it was at first!
I'm all about being comfortable and stylish. And the comfort with this top is just beyond. The fabric is super yummy..yes yummy! :) and just hugs your skin and curves in all the right places.
One thing I've noticed teaming up with BohoBlu Curvy is the QUALITY of their clothing is superb! You would totally expect the price point to be much higher for how amazing the quality is! This top is definitely a wardrobe essential that will hold up super nicely for many falls to come, 80 degrees or 60 degrees :)
You can snag this top at bohoblu.com and use the code XOANGELIQUE at check out to receive 10% off your entire purchase now until 11/27/16.
They are also offering FREE shipping now until 12/31/16.
Color- Olive (Also available in Navy)
Fabric- 96% Rayon, 4% Spandex
Growing up with a single dad, and a house with only boys, let just say fashion wasn't something I was at all familiar with. Add being plus size to that and its "you are wearing what your brother wears just in bigger boy sizes." There was no Torrid, Lane Bryant, Forever21 plus- At least my Dad had not discovered it yet.I think thankfully by age 13 there was a Fashionbug?? EEKK! Having literally worn boy clothes for most of my life I learned at a very young age that fashion, style and beauty have to start inside and radiate through you.